T-minus 15 (14 really, I suppose) days until he starts law school and everything changes. Well, there are big changes besides that. We have a house! We're renting it, but it's big and beautiful and.... needs a LOT of work. Which at first, he was all gung ho for fixing it up while in school but we're both quickly realizing that's probably not going to happen. For fun's sake, we're taking a vacation this weekend to get away and have some R&R before the whirlwind of law school starts next month. I think we're both looking forward to it.
I'm still nervous about when he starts and how little I'll see of him/how little free time he'll have, but as for now, I'm going to appreciate the time we're spending together and the steady income we'll have for the next three weeks! :)
Tuesday, July 29, 2008
Tuesday, July 22, 2008
confessions of a girlfriend, pre-law school
I started this blog because my boyfriend is about to start law school in August. On the way to work one morning, it dawned on me, "oh shit. my boyfriend is about to start law school."
and no, I'm not kidding. That stupid thought really did just sink in. Then, of course, I freaked out. How is this going to work? Are we going to have enough time to spend together? Should I hope for the best but expect the worst? Am I ever going to see him? Am I going to sacrifice everything so I can be supportive, and is he going to appreciate my support or just expect it?
So I googled. And found a few sites that helped, mostly they didn't. Although, I did find this handy term, "law school widow," which basically means you're with someone in law school and because they're so busy (it seems as if) they're never around. And I decided to start my own blog.
A little background on us: we've been friends for several years now. We met back in college and stayed friends ever since and we both graduated a year ago. We moved in together as friends and about two months ago decided we were more than just friends and it's been pretty great ever since. He's good at communicating, he's an excellent cuddler, he's incredibly smart and we love spending time together. We're going to continue to live with each other while he's in school, for several reasons: we got a sweet deal on a place to live, and it works better for both of us to see each other when we're at home, versus trying to plan a time for us to both get together. I love it, I am one of those girls who love to be around my man as much as I can, so being able to come home and know that he's there and we can snuggle up on the couch or make dinner together and not have to worry about calling and making plans is great.
We're going on a little trip in a few weeks, before he starts school, and that will probably be our last fun time for awhile. I'm scared that when he starts school, he's going to disappear off the face of the planet and I'm going to end up getting screwed over because I'll stick with the relationship, even though I'm not getting anything out of it.
I love being supportive and helping people out, and I will be his number one cheerleader, however, I need support and attention too. I've talked to him about it and he's said that he knows how to manage his time and delegate time for what he needs to do, and I hope that he makes sure that I have some of that time devoted to me and our relationship.
I'm hoping there are some other people out there in the same boat, who are married, dating or living with someone starting (or finishing) law school when they themselves are not in school or have nothing to do with law school.
In the meantime, I'm going to take full advantage of the time we have in the next month before he gets his soul taken by law school. :)
and no, I'm not kidding. That stupid thought really did just sink in. Then, of course, I freaked out. How is this going to work? Are we going to have enough time to spend together? Should I hope for the best but expect the worst? Am I ever going to see him? Am I going to sacrifice everything so I can be supportive, and is he going to appreciate my support or just expect it?
So I googled. And found a few sites that helped, mostly they didn't. Although, I did find this handy term, "law school widow," which basically means you're with someone in law school and because they're so busy (it seems as if) they're never around. And I decided to start my own blog.
A little background on us: we've been friends for several years now. We met back in college and stayed friends ever since and we both graduated a year ago. We moved in together as friends and about two months ago decided we were more than just friends and it's been pretty great ever since. He's good at communicating, he's an excellent cuddler, he's incredibly smart and we love spending time together. We're going to continue to live with each other while he's in school, for several reasons: we got a sweet deal on a place to live, and it works better for both of us to see each other when we're at home, versus trying to plan a time for us to both get together. I love it, I am one of those girls who love to be around my man as much as I can, so being able to come home and know that he's there and we can snuggle up on the couch or make dinner together and not have to worry about calling and making plans is great.
We're going on a little trip in a few weeks, before he starts school, and that will probably be our last fun time for awhile. I'm scared that when he starts school, he's going to disappear off the face of the planet and I'm going to end up getting screwed over because I'll stick with the relationship, even though I'm not getting anything out of it.
I love being supportive and helping people out, and I will be his number one cheerleader, however, I need support and attention too. I've talked to him about it and he's said that he knows how to manage his time and delegate time for what he needs to do, and I hope that he makes sure that I have some of that time devoted to me and our relationship.
I'm hoping there are some other people out there in the same boat, who are married, dating or living with someone starting (or finishing) law school when they themselves are not in school or have nothing to do with law school.
In the meantime, I'm going to take full advantage of the time we have in the next month before he gets his soul taken by law school. :)
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